Friday, November 26, 2010
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Do you look good cos you feel good, or feel good cos you look good?
This topic came randomly when I was arguing(in a friendly way of course) which is true. In the practical society we live in now, its hard not to say that looks really does matter. Your eyes are always the first of your five sense you use when you meet someone. Looking at the person from head to toe, unknowingly you are already mentally constructing a vague idea of who you think the person is like. How long and flowy her hair is, the cuteness of his handsome face, how big the "chests" are (for both guys and girls), the muscled bicep of the body builders or those white long slender legs. These all play apart in your first impression of the person.
Some might prefer cute (hor Ryan ;D), others prefer pretty, it all falls in the category of appearance, outward physical face-value appearance. There might be different terms used for the attractiveness of the person, but in the end it's still just the looks. So what makes the person look cute, or look pretty. To me, it always has been the personality of the person, which results in the aura that radiates around him/her. There isn't really a cute face, jus a cute personality. Its how the person behaves that establishes their outward appearances. To me, cuteness always entails with it a "I need to take care of her" feeling for girls while for guys its "the sunny smile" feeling. As for pretty or handsome, I tie it down to demure/charisma. A girl who's pretty carries herself well, knowing that she's pretty while a guy who radiates charisma is jus...radiating charisma la HAHA. So does it mean that you look how you feel?
But vice versa, sometimes the appearances on the outside extends inside of you as well. Maybe for a particular imporatant occasion, like a date, you take more than usual to dress up, making sure you're in tip top form. Dosen't that confer a sense of confidence in all of us, and thats why we do that? You might say that its a "society-conforming" need, but don't we all dress up so that we can impress others. Recently I've been trying out a few styles myself to see which I prefer, and when I wear a combi that I really like, it just makes me feel more "taller" and in hope of someone praising me. Maybe its jus a need for approval? But nonetheless, how looking good can make you feel good, isn't exactly in your hands to decide in my opinion. It confers a temporary state of happiness, but in the end all we're looking for is that nod-of-approval from people then we become confident.
So now the conclusion? Well I guess if you're going along the lines of "do YOU look good then feel good or feel good then look good", I would say feel first wins, for the former isn't really about yourself, but rather on using others as a basis to raise yourself up. Hence, I wanted to ask "Do you want to depend on yourself for confidence or others", but I suddenly realise that it depends on your character as well. More introverted people couldn't care bout what others say, thus living in a world of their own, while extroverted inavertedly having to be in contact with people will want to accquire their opinions, generally good of course. In the end, we're all just trying to make ourselves happy, either your way or my way.
And then sudden;y this quote came into my mind, "Nice from far...far from nice".
I feel that it really does bring out the "atrocity" (I know thats too harsh a word to use, but my degrading english vocab is preventing me from coming up with anything else to replace it) of the fact that outward appearance matters. Somehow I've always had to this belief, some might call it a fairy-tale thinking, that character matters more than looks. To me, the most important thing is whether you like the person, not how the person looks. Of course if the person is appealing its a plus, but thats not the requirement. In the end, be it in looking for a friend or a mate, we dun want to look at them only, we want the sense of bonding that is shared, otherwise might as well go get a statue haha xD. Look at it this way, do want people who walk with you in your life, or just look at you walking...
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