Saturday, October 2, 2010
.:. Simple advices .:.
Before first impression, comes zero expectation.
With all the uni relationship talks and HTHT with gof before, its no wonder I got an inspiration for this post. Looks come first. How many of us have had this engraved in our minds since dunnoe when. Its either pretty/cute girls or handsome tall guys that get into relationships easily, almost like with a snap of a finger. How true is this?
The main explanation being that because these people are appealing to the eyes, so people tend to open up to them more easily, with the intention of "getting to know" better, or plainly put in hopes of getting attached to these "up there" people in terms of looks. Because you are handsome, people expect you to have girls giggling around you all the time, and if your a pretty girl, perhaps lots of friend request on your facebook even. So with so many opportunities, mathematically it can be deducted/proven that these people are those that get attached first.
But whether it really lasts ultimately depends on the person's character. No point finding a pretty face, but the character is totally un-tolerable. In the end, a pretty face wrinkles when aged anyway, if your with her long enough to see it. I know some might argue that if you do not possess the "up there" look, people won't even want to talk to you, hence voiding you of the chance to get to know the character. Which brings me to my point.
You see what you want to see. Do you go into a new group looking for a pretty face to be your gf, or are you just looking for a friend? Its what you set out with in your mind that determines what you "see". If you're aiming for a gf, then no doubt the pretty girl's gonna be in your sights, save for the rest. But if all you want is a friend, one whom you can click with, will the looks even matter. Then, what you are looking for is on the inside, no longer the superficial face on the outside. So in a way, this is when the inside of the person is "pretty/handsome" to you. Your first impression of the person, whether you want her to pretty, or really "pretty", it really depends on you. Its all about what you expect to find, a girlfriend or a mate.
Give an example. Looking around your daily items, you see the wallet, or a purse in which ever sense applies to you. You can get a top of the class desinger branded beyond expensive wallet to show off. But for all you know, since you didn't open the wallet to see inside, it might be empty. Or if this example is not enough, say if there is money in the wallet. Given a $50 bucks, what would you do with it? Would you spend it on a top grade abalone cooked to perfection, or simple hawker foodfare, say even enough to share with a group of friends. I'm not trying to say which is better than which, I know its a personal opinion, but I know which I prefer. Its not how much you have, its how you want to spend the money. Its not how the girl/boy looks, its how you want to the person to look. Hope this example makes sense to you readers :)
See i told you so...
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