Wednesday, December 9, 2009
.:. Fruitful Tuesday .:.
Yesterday went out with a bunch of 0804ians to go bugis Top 1 to sing. Other than the usual 4, Yeow Kheng and Jia Yen joined us this time. Being a frequent of Kbox(thanks to sushan), I cant help comparing the 2. Firstly, it is the price. kbox is definitely more expensive, ranging 20+ while Top 1 is only 18nett. But as they say, price = quality. I would have to say that Kbox provided a better environment. The moment we stepped into the room in Top 1, we realised there was alot of flies...dun noe why. The floor there was also dam dirty, after a while you could feel the stickiness of the floor on yr shoe. So that puts a huge downer on Top 1. While Kbox only offers 2 drinks, Top 1 offers unlimited drinks, so its alot better in that aspect. Moving on to the music there, Kbox totally tops Top 1. Its quite obvious that the MVs used in Top 1 were quite, erm lower standard than that of Kbox, cos the MVs were not as clear, and rather old. Maybe I am jus bias...cos they dun have the songs i wana sing!!!
Overall, I think Top 1 is ok la. It aint that bad, considering the price. So it jus depends on which u prefer, price or quality ba.
After singing for 7 hours (woohoo!!! highness) we met Ryan for dinner, with Yeow Kheng and Jia Yen leaving the group. We walked to one of the Astons outlet around Little India. Then we had a hard time deciding what night activity we wanted to do. Its surprising how hard it is for a group of us to think of what things to do at nite in Singapore, and its not the 1st time. In the end, we jus decided to go sit by Singapore River to talk.
But I must say, the atmosphere there was excellent. Sitting by the black water, blinking lights around us, and the occasional screams from the bungee jumpers jus beside us, puts a very suitable atmosphere for talking. So we jus sat there, and talked. Talk talk talk, and our conversation was centered around relationships, which made me think alot bout that topic...
Relationships are very complicated. Dun get me wrong, I know that it is complicated, but apparently it is alot more complicated than what I pictured. Lets first talk bout the types of relationship (and I mean between genders). We have the purely platonic (is this the correct word to use???) relationship, where you have 2 person of the opposite sexes being great friends, just very good friends. To the extent where they share everything, anything bout themselves, much like a couple, yet are not in that inclined to the other party. I remember ever hearing this from someone,"Its not possible for a guy to be very good friends with a girl without the guy entertaining any of those thoughts bout going out together (or something along those lines)...". Is it really that impossible??? Cant a guy and a girl be simply purely good friends???
Next we have the relationship, Attraction. In my terms, it simply means that the physical appearance of the opposite sex, coupled with the character, if you know the person well enough, attracts you, and it stops there. Your just attracted to that person. So this comes to mind, is it probably just hormones at work? Your hormones are telling you that the person is very "nice", and hence you feel this way. What's next depends on the ability of your mind to influence your body, whether you rationalise youself to know that its just attraction or u jus listen to your body and go for it.
Lastly, we have the almighty Love. After much thought, I sum this up as Attraction + the possiblity of lasting forever (note the use of "possibility"). This is when you find the person "nice", and your mind tells you that you 2 can be together forever. Yet how do we know what is love? If love is really that almighty, what happens that allows for the love to disappear in some cases? Is it because we don't know the person as well as we thought we do or cos love is not that strong a relationship as we picture it to be?
So relationships are very complicated, very very, which makes me wonder if I am ready for it.
After much self-reflection and chat sessions with different people, I dun tink I am ready. Relationship is a huge responsibiltity, very huge one. For me, when I enter a relationship, I must know that the relationship can last, and that love is actually there and not attraction only. When you enter a relationship, its not just bout spending saturdays going out with your gf/bf at somewhere you think its romantic. There's the responsibility of being there for your partner, when she needs it most. You must know when your partner needs you the most even though he/she does not say it, and let he/she know that you are there. Relationship is not just pure happy and fun, but also to fill the emotional support needed that family and friends cant provide for.
To enter a relationship, you must also know your partner well enough. The other party's character, temper, emotions, way of thinking, likes and dislikes etc. You must be able to read your partner's every move, to know when to be there, when to give space. This allows for the give and take necessary for the relationship to work. On the same note, this cant be one-sided too. If you are always the one giving, even though there is love now, there might come a day when you feel tired of it all, and the feeling fades away. Moreover, is this one-sidedness because of his/her character, or is it because there is no real love?
Thats all I've thought till now, given the space of 1 day. But i guess that pretty much sums up how I feel the complexity of relationships are. It ain't as complicated as it was, it is more. Are you ready...
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